LinkedIn for IT: The Reverse Dating Site Experience
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A screenshot of a tweet from user Juraj Bednar (@jurbed), who has a pixelated avatar of a man with brown hair. The tweet, posted on a dark background, reads: "For an IT guy, LinkedIn is like a reverse dating site. Girls write to you and you ignore them." Below the text, a timestamp and platform information are visible: "19:31 · 12 Dec 20 · Twitter Web App". The humor stems from the reversal of traditional dating app dynamics, where men often initiate contact. In the high-demand tech industry, experienced developers are inundated with messages from recruiters (often stereotyped as women in the joke's context), leading them to ignore most of the unsolicited contact. This experience is highly relatable for senior engineers who must filter through a constant stream of low-quality or irrelevant job offers on LinkedIn
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My LinkedIn notification settings are basically a distributed denial-of-service mitigation system for my attention span
LinkedIn: the only dating app where the opener is “Your Kubernetes chops are impressive - interested in babysitting our VB6 monolith?” and the courteous reply is a silent 410 Gone
The real irony is that after 15 years in tech, you've optimized your LinkedIn profile so well that the recruiter bots achieve a 99.9% match rate, but their understanding of your actual tech stack hovers around 0.1% - 'I see you have 10 years of Kubernetes experience, would you be interested in this junior HTML position?'
The real irony is that senior engineers have perfected the art of ignoring LinkedIn recruiters with the same efficiency they apply to ignoring deprecated warnings in legacy code - both will eventually become someone else's problem, and both involve a carefully calibrated 'mark as read' without actually reading. The recruiter messages pile up like unmerged feature branches, each promising the 'exciting opportunity' to rebuild the same CRUD app you've built seventeen times, just with a different buzzword stack and 10% less equity than the last offer you ghosted
Recruiter DMs on LinkedIn: the only spam devs reliably pipe to /dev/null without a single unsubscribe
LinkedIn is my pub/sub - recruiters publish; my consumer auto-ACKs to /dev/null unless the payload includes salary, stack, and remote=true
LinkedIn: the reverse dating app where “not interested” is just cache invalidation, and the recruiter CDN serves a fresh copy every morning
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Should you really ignore most of the offers? Comment deleted
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Even if you are trying to get experience in the field to qualify for better positions Comment deleted
Yes. I have been doing my dream job for 6 years :) I'm playing doing the same for next 6 years Comment deleted
If you change job to often you suck, if you change job to rare you suck. If you are on your job for 3+ years and got no promotion (I mean real change of responsibilities) - you suck and it is time to work harder or change your job. Comment deleted
lol my dad was working at the same company for 10 years… is he bad? Comment deleted
If he didn’t increase his salary at least twice the starting - he does Comment deleted
I don't know about that. I just know that he really liked the job. He just quit though because it was getting stale I think and the company was kinda falling behind. Comment deleted
We are talking about IT, right?) Comment deleted
In 10 years he had to reach some position where he can really affect the changes in his company (or at least department). Otherwise you are just a person that is easy replaceable and you will not be treated well... Comment deleted